Messy Lawsuit between divorced couple, now kids are involved?
Okay, here’s the short version: My mother in law marred a very weird man (we’ll call them Sally and Bob) when my husband was 10. My husband (we’ll call him Pete) and his sister were adopted for insurance reasons. So now the kids have Bob’s last name. When my hubby Pete was 16, Sally and Bob got divorced. Bob was/is a very weird guy. The divorce was very messy and Sally told Bob never to talk to the kids again. When the kids where adults they also told him (bc he still tried to contact them) that they didnt want anything to do with him. So fast forward to present day. Bob filed for bankruptcy and left Sally with HIS college debt – $15,000!! They are currently in a lawsuit for him to pay her back the debt. So now, Bob is back to harrassing the kids. Pete and I moved out of the state for his job, and Bob found us. Figured out our address (only god knows how!!) and mailed us a letter. Now he is emailing Pete almost everyday. **So much for short version. To be continued**
He has taken pics off of our myspace pages (just the first default pic, since you have to be a friend to view our whole page) and has posted them on his myspace page and his personal website. He has posted very personal information about Pete and his sister on his pages as well.
We havent responded to any of his letters or emails. We just wanted to ignore him. But that is becoming very hard to do.
Is it possible to get a restraining order because of this?
Because of the lawsuit that Sally and Bob have, Bob has been ordered not to talk to Sally outside of court. So we’re not really sure why he has picked this time to try to connect with the kids again. They dont want anything to do with him. I’ve never met him and he’s posted very odd things about me, about always wanting me as a daughter in law.
Yes Monk. We are keeping all of the stuff together just in case we need to give it to someone. We didnt want it to come to all of this, but I think you are right. We need to start fighting back.
And Dragonfly – about the address. Yep, we moved and two months later we got a letter. We arent even in the phonebook yet! No one has our address that would have given it to him. It really creeps us out that he would be able to track us down like that. We still dont know how he got it. But he was my hubby’s dad for awhile, so he has all of my hubby’s info, like SSN and such. Scary stuff if you ask me!!
June 29th, 2009 at 8:39 am
Welll you do need to tell him to stop emailing and sending letters. If he keeps on then yes get a RO.
July 2nd, 2009 at 12:41 pm
Its not only possible, it seems necessary. This guy sounds like a nutjob. Talk to a lawyer about getting a restraining order- and in the mean time block his email address and and report his page to MySpace- they are usually pretty good about taking stuff like that down.
July 5th, 2009 at 6:37 am
Siblings need to write a letter certified mail to tell him stop, get all info and go get restraining order, must prove you feel threatened, stop trying to be good guy and make decision about this man and put your foot down, collect and save all stuff, this gives you focus so it helps you to stop seeing it personally, mom may need this info in court, help her out, every thirty days and go file for RO and try to up it each time letting them know how much you feel harassed and jeopardized, in six months if it still hasn’t stopped you need to get a lawyer and since you got all your ducks in a row it will be an easy case.
July 5th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Has Sally told her lawyer about this? The lawyer can petition the court to widen the order against Bob to include family members. But it sounds like you really do need to talk to someone about a restraining order. What do you mean you moved and he figured out your new address?
I agree with someone above me. Myspace is really good about patrolling their site. Just let them know that he’s posting things about you and your hubby and that it’s not appropriate.