
She has alzheimers and she has not been thinking clearly. She trusted her son to run her finances and in return, when she bought a home she put him on the note. Now, my wife and I come back from out of state to find that my mother in law is in so much debt she was not able to afford to eat and has to file bankruptcy. We are staying with her and of course, her lazy son lays around and does nothing but eat and sleep. I am the only one with a job. My mother in law gave her daughter(my wife) power of attorney. My brother in law has it good now, enjoying the gravy train. But this is fixing to stop since I found a place to live with my wife and her mother. My question is her mother still wants to pay all of her son’s bills. His car note.She still wants to make the house payment even though it will not be hers anymore. She does not want her son to lose the home. She expects me to send her son grocery money. I do not want to upset her because I know she is ill. How do I handle this
I have to add on because there is not enough room. My mother in law has been paying HIS car note, the house note, a ten thousand dollar note he borrowed and had her co sign. She did not see any of this money. She pays his computer bill. She has been paying ALL the utilities and his car insurance. She is on a fixed income and until we came back and found out she was not even eating right, she ate very little to be able to do all of this! He has run up every credit card by taking her with him when he wanted something and has not even offered to help her around the house. She gets mad at my daughter for asking him to help. But she has Alzheimer’s so she does not think clearly. My wife wants to care for her mother and we are taking her to live with us.
The home cannot be sold because it is in his name also and he refuses to sell it to pay her bills. The lawyer said she can file on it and he will be forced to pay for it or it will go back to the bank. This is the only way we can free up her income to help with her care!